Monday, October 26, 2015

Sun Downing Behavior Management: "Would You like Some Pizza?"




Lori was exhausted. Her husband was preparing for a major teaching project, and was, "in," and "out," of the house spending more time at the office than at home. He was the domestic partner who always cleaned, cooked, took out the garbage and actually enjoyed doing the laundry. "How do these women do it?" Lori thought as she scrubbed the showers, vacuumed the floor, dusted the end tables, bleached the toilets, changed the bedding and laundered the clothes. With her teen-aged daughter still awake at 11:30PM on a Saturday night and her mother fast asleep, Lori was more ready than ever to go to bed.

"Lights out by 1AM young lady!" "Oh mom, it's Saturday. Can't I stay up even later than 1AM?" Lori's daughter was persistent, but Lori said, "No, 1AM is your latest weekend bedtime!" As Lori and her daughter said their ."Good-nights," Lori checked in on her mother and noticed that her mother was sleeping soundly like a baby. This made Lori very happy.

Lori contributed to her mother's good night's sleep in several ways. She made sure that her mother got some walking exercise in during the day. Her mother would participate in activities around the house, she would fold clothes, chop vegetables, put dishes away, etc. Lori had word searches for her, she would play classical music, play with the dog, interact with friends that came to visit, etc. After dinner and teeth brushing, when it was time to retire for the night, Lori would give her mother (after originally clearing this with Lori's mother's doctor), a Melatonin sleep spray. (See our natural living tab on this blog for more info.) The Sleep Spray, being a combination of natural supplements, along with stimulation during the day appeared to work well to regulate Lori's mother's natural sleep cycle.

Before knowing the importance of putting these sleep assured practices in place, through daily exercise etc., there were episodes of Sun Downing,* (anxiety at night causing endless wandering and bizarre behaviors experienced by people suffering from dementia), that happened on a regular basis which made Lori and her family question if they could handle her mother's bizarre wandering behaviors. After taking online and local seminars on caregiving/carepartnering for people living with dementia, Lori was able to develop her own techniques. Sun Downing can be very hard to handle.  During Sun Downing episodes, Lori's mother appeared to come to life at night when everyone else was sleeping. She would turn on all of the lights in the house, burst through bedroom doors like a rambling drunk, take the car keys and try to drive Lori's car, wander up and down the basement steps, take all of the pictures off the walls, blast the TV, prepare food by leaving the gas stove on, etc  ALL at 3 or 4 AM!!  When this first started happening, Lori was overwhelmed, and had no idea of what to do.  But with proper training, the torment,(on both sides), turned into healing opportunities and the behavioral challenges ended. It is very important to remember that there is ALWAYS a reason for these behaviors, and if we learn the importance of the "why," and let go of our judgments, miracles can happen. Below is an example of a recent occurrence, and how Lori resolved it using proper communication techniques.

 "Mom, Mom!!!!" Lori's daughter was frantically trying to wake her. Lori opened her eyes and her daughter said, "She came into the room while I was watching TV,  wanting to know if I had any siblings, Mom. Do you think she has forgotten who I am??"  "Don't worry," said Lori . "You just go to bed, Grandma is sleep walking and is in a dream state. I'll take care of her." "Thanks, Mom, " said Lori's daughter. "And don't worry, your grandmother will remember you in the morning, okay?" It was after 1AM.

Lori entered her living room to find all the lights on and her mother fully dressed in a blue silk blouse (Lori's blouse), black slacks, her hair primped and sprayed, lipstick on her lips and her teeth in. "Well, hello. It's so great to see you!" Lori's mother's voice and mannerisms took on the tone of a hostess at a cocktail party welcoming a long lost friend. "It's great to see you, too!" Lori matched her mother's tone and character. "Well, are you hungry? Can you stay long?" Lori's mother was energized and ready to serve her. Let's see what we have." Lori followed her mother into her own kitchen. "Would you like some pizza? " ( Lori's mother thought she was in her own kitchen, and Lori was a guest.)  Lori told her mother she just wanted a glass of water. So, Lori and her mother sat on Lori's couch. Lori sipped her glass of water with her head dosing and her legs crossed,  and her mother said nothing. They sat in the silence together at 1:30AM, (Lori fighting the urge to fall asleep, trying desperately to stay awake),  both women looking forward, staring at the wall, not uttering a word. Lori just waited and waited, intuitively knowing that she needed to follow her mother's lead, and that something very important that her mother had been holding in her brain for YEARS possibly, was about to emerge. And boy, was she RIGHT!!!

Lori's mother said, "My mother never approved of my friendship with the Paris family." (Not their real name.) As soon as Lori's mother started leading the conversation, Lori followed her into her own world by asking specific questions about her present statements without ever asking the question, "why." (See Validation by Naomi Feil, MSW) "WAS there a reason for your mother's disapproval?" Then Lori's mother's eyes lit up like a Christmas tree. "OOOOHH YES there was a reason, and you won't believe it!" Now they were connecting. Lori's mother was about to spill the beans on something she had been holding onto for years. "What was the reason that made your mother so upset?"  And then Lori's mother even shocked Lori by telling her about a very close family member that was the result of an affair by another close family member which was hidden from Lori's family for generations!!!    "How did you feel about this when it happened, mother?" "I resented him. "  She then went on to share that this particular person was a neglectful, quiet alcoholic who made her feel unsafe, and even unloved at times. And out of the blue she said, "He had a hearing problem, too!" Was that possibly her way of saying that she didn't feel heard? Interesting.  "I'm tired Lori. I think I better go back to bed, "said Lori's mother. Lori's mother then, on her own went back to bed.

 During the exchange, tons of sharing was happening, and what amazed Lori was her mothers vocal tone, physical gestures and mannerisms, which all reflected her pre-dementia state of being. The more Lori's mother was feeling heard, the more she was being freed, and her body language was expressing this freedom.  It was as if Lori's mother had lost the dementia completely, and had returned to the person she was before she had been given her diagnosis.

This momentary return to the pre-dementia state happened once before between Lori and her mother shortly after Lori had some training on proper ways of handling these bizarre behaviors, and one day Lori's mother ended Lori's questions with a few questions of her own. "Do you have any more questions for us?" It was never: "Do you have any more questions for me ."  It was always," Do you have anymore questions for us."

  When this would happen, Lori, (for lack of a better comparison), would feel as if she was watching  her mother taking on the role of psychic, or highly evolved spiritual leader channeling information from the spirit world, because the questions she would ask Lori were very surprising. Questions such as: "What would you like to do with the rest of your life while you are still here on earth?" And observations like: "I feel God's presence," etc.   

This was and is very confusing to Lori, but what isn't confusing to Lori,  is that midnight wandering and confusion called Sun Downing is not something that needs to be suppressed. It is coming up for a reason. The Sun Downing activities and behaviors are directly related to unresolved or suppressed emotions that need to be expressed in order to be released, and Sun Downing is a very important part of the healing process, leading to the transition state or end of life liberation of the soul. Naomi Feil, MSW once put it this way,(to paraphrase). "They are packing their last suitcase and need to get rid of excess baggage before making their final journey home."

 So, the healing that Lori speaks of is not a healing from dementia, but a healing from the mental suffering that causes the dis-connect, or confused cognition in the first place. Caregivers and care-partners are certainly not psychotherapists, but they can learn a verbiage that can create a momentary release from inner suffering,  creating deep connections between care-partners and carers. The art and skill of using positive communication techniques, offers people experiencing dementia opportunities to not only release their emotional baggage, but to live in a state of contentment while they are still with us here on earth. And by releasing, rather than suppressing these emotions, individuals can become consciously aware of their peaceful presence in the NOW, fearlessly embracing the wings of freedom they will be given by the angels when their time comes, to fly home to God.    

 When Lori's mother woke up she had no recollection of what had happened during the night. She played with the dog, laughed and went about her day.

It is ironic to think that ALL of our modern day scientific research on dementia embraces a theory that was arrived at 100 years ago by performing an autopsy on a section of a cadaver's brain. Wouldn't it make more sense to study behavior rather than brain pathology???  Perhaps there will one day be a way to study both ways, and to fully honor the sacred wisdom of aging.

(Sun Downing * definition by Merriam/Webster Dictionary)

Positive Communication methods for people living with dementia:  We recommend seminars by Teepa Snow,M.S., OTR/L.FAOTA www.teepasnow.com, Naomi Feil, MSW, www.vfvalidation.org, and her books, all of them. And the life changing, ground breaking books, "Contented Dementia," by Dr. Oliver James, "The Mindful Caregiver," by Nancy L. Kriseman, and "Deeper Into The Soul," by Nader Robert Shabahangi, Ph.D, and Bogna Szymkiewicz, Ph.D

Copyright 2015 Caregivers Get Fit! Mama  Nicey

The information in this blog is information. It is not meant to be a replacement for getting medical advice from your own health professional regarding your own individual health challenge or condition. Dr. Denise will not diagnose, treat, or give direct personal consultations/advice to you on this blog for any medical condition, but will give general examples, and scientific research on many different health topics.  How you decide to use the information is between you and your own medical/ health professional.






Saturday, October 17, 2015

She Talks Too Much





It was Saturday, and sensory stimulation was everywhere. Buzzing sheers, electric shavers, snipping scissors, and plastic aprons. The sounds, smells, head rocking, scalp scrubbing gyrations, were a rude awakening for Lori's mother who preferred her, " happy place," on a padded chair on a quiet deck  surrounded by singing birds, beautiful trees and passing clouds. There, without a care,  living in her "now-filled,"  presence of one-sided canine conversations, she was in control, she was loved unconditionally without any expectations, and could just sit in the silence. It was in this peace-filled presence, a partition for her soul, where she felt most alive.   Nonetheless, she approached this aerosol spraying, foil wrapping, chin waxing jungle, with hopes of future elegance, obtained only after putting in her obligatory appointed time in a spinning chair with hydraulic elevations. And hairdressers who had habits of filling in silent spaces with empty conversations, along with giving Lori's mother specific instructions that were difficult for anyone to follow, much less a person challenged by dementia.  "Tilt your head. Lift your chin. Tilt your head again. Could you lift your chin? Alright, almost done, just close your eyes, hold your breath, and turn to the right.  Now, if you wouldn't mind, could you tilt your head again?"  All of this effort, under the hood of a dryer with tightly wound curlers so that she could look, " put together," in her favorite pew, singing her favorite hymns on Sunday mornings at church. But even Lori's mother, as patient as she could be, knew her limitations.

 Lori's mother had other medical challenges, along with dementia and many times needed to rest which caused them to visit many different salons as a "walk in" rather than at an appointed time. The first hair salon Lori took her mother to was right around the corner from Lori's house. Lori's mother enjoyed the hair stylist, but after only a few months, the salon moved, and they needed to find a new place to go.

Every salon was different, but all of them had characters with unique faces.  Faces greeting faces with bleached hair, mousse ridden, hip swinging, gum smacking spontaneity. Very happy people in a happy place!  There was bright lipstick, painted nails, too much rouge, glued- on lashes, and eyebrows drawn above the eyes of one stylist with a  black grease pencil,  looking more like Mickie Mouse, than human!  And the new people cowering,  in the corner were easy to spot,  because they hid their hair behind magazine covers waiting for their names to be called, preparing themselves to be the new kids on the block.

Faces on the phone, faces with their heads all lathered up with soap, towel covered faces, faces with ratted up hair almost as tall as, "The Cat In The Hat!" Faces wearing curlers stacked and rolled in plastic cylinders clipped tightly to their heads.  But amid st the culture of creativity, there was a deep respect and heartfelt compassion, even from the oddest looking appearances. But Lori's mother didn't judge her hair stylists by the way they did her hair, but by the questions they asked.

Lori would point out different hair stylists saying, "Maybe she will take you next?"  And Lori 's mother would always say the same thing, "She looks like she talks too much."  Lori would say, "What makes you think she talks too much?"  Lori's mother would just roll her eyes, and would whisper under her breath for only Lori to hear, "I don't like her shoes."  And if Lori would ask her more questions there would be more insults. Finally after much searching and much hair spray, Lori and her mother found the perfect stylist. And true to form, the stylist is still her stylist today. Not only is she a skilled hair dresser, but she doesn't talk when she works on Lori's mother's hair. She is very comfortable with the silence.  After she works on Lori's mother's hair, her mother says the same thing, "I like her, we need to see her from now on." And Lori would ask, "What do you like about her, Mom?" And her mother would respond, "She doesn't talk so much."

So, the moral of the story is that if you are in a position to work with people, and the person in front of you has dementia. 1) Ask them one thing at a time and then pause for a response. If there is no response, then repeat, but repeat the same ONE question.  And if you have to give them specific directions in a medical or spa setting, be patient and  give one direction at a time. If you feel impatient, have someone who is more patient than you are work with the person. And watch how the person who is mindfully patient, handles the situation.  You will find yourself gaining skills that you never thought you had, but you must be willing to be led.

People with dementia can only take in a few things at a time,  and become not only confused but agitated when they are overstimulated by too many questions. If the person with dementia you, or your staff are working with always appears agitated,  (and doesn't have a medical history of  a pathology causing the agitation), organize a few dementia communication training sessions. It is quite possible that caregivers themselves, may unknowingly be causing the agitation. (I know this is hard to hear, especially when caregiving/care-partner's intentions are pure), but getting some training in positive dementia communication skills may be all that a caregiver needs to improve the agitation levels. And the good news, is that in time you may find that you, or your staff can become wonderful, patient and skilled, positive communicators!  So, again ask only one question at a time.

 2) Small talk with scattered subjects may be too much talk for people with dementia. Use small talk to connect, but make it about the present moment, not long stories about you, because they can't follow your long stories.  For instance: If you are standing outside and a leaf falls, talk about the falling leaf.  I promise you, the entire world of connections will open up for both of you, if you keep everything in the present moment.

 3) Let them lead you by their own conversations.  If they have a favorite memory from 60 years ago, go with them into their world. Ask questions about What? When? How? Where? Many things will open up and you will be FLOORED to see that they will not repeat these stories very much, anymore. All they wanted to do in the first place was to FEEL the emotion of the the memory of long ago, and your ability to connect with them while they are re-living that memory brings them to the innermost center of that emotion and they will then have closure and completion with that memory. (And this is true for unpleasant memories, too that may wake them up at night.) Please note: This isn't psycho- therapy. This is active, mindful and skillful listening, using validation.  Remember,  as Maya Angelou once said: " I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel."  (See Validation Breakthrough by Naomi Feil, MSW to learn more about this.)

Lori picked her mother up today from the salon. She was sitting in the front with the people hiding behind the magazines, but she wasn't hiding.  She was proudly and confidently holding up her ratted, teased, curled and sprayed hair. "How did it go mother? You look beautiful!! Lori's mother was smiling, "I like her a lot, she's my favorite, not like that other one. This one's a keeper," said Lori's mother. "This one, mother?  And not the other stylist? The one with he ugly shoes? " Lori was trying to get an answer out of her. "I don't like her at all. She talks too much, Lori!  She talks too much!"

Positive Communication methods for people living with dementia:  We recommend seminars by Teepa Snow,M.S., OTR/L.FAOTA www.teepasnow.com, Naomi Feil, MSW, www.vfvalidation.org, and her books, all of them. And the life changing, ground breaking books, "Contented Dementia," by Dr. Oliver James, "The Mindful Caregiver," by Nancy L. Kriseman, and "Deeper Into The Soul," by Nader Robert Shabahangi, Ph.D, and Bogna Szymkiewicz, Ph.D

Copyright 2015 Caregivers Get Fit! Mama  Nicey

The information in this blog is information. It is not meant to be a replacement for getting medical advice from your own health professional regarding your own individual health challenge or condition. Dr. Denise will not diagnose, treat, or give direct personal consultations/advice to you on this blog for any medical condition, but will give general examples, and scientific research on many different health topics.  How you decide to use the information is between you and your own medical/ health professional.

Wednesday, October 14, 2015

I Thought It Was Sunday!






Dementia affects everybody, not only the person with the disease, but the people surrounding the person who is suffering. The spouse, the children, the siblings the parents, the coworkers, the community leaders and the long lost friends, to name a few.  And the suffering grows like blooming flowers out of many places, not just the neurofibrillary tangles found in diseased brain tissue. The effects are immense for many reasons, but mainly, the most prevalent reasons are because all of the categories of dementia, especially A.D.,  press our fear buttons. And the big question is: "What am I going to do if this happens to ME?"

So, people living with this fear, which most of us, (either consciously, or unconsciously) have - do what people typically do when they are faced with uncomfortable situations.  They disappear. They busy themselves with social obligations and completely ignore the one person who could benefit the most from the healthy effects of social stimulation. "She won't remember me anyway," and they never call, write or visit the person with dementia. Why? Because they don't know how to communicate with the person. So, the person suffering from the disease, without choice, becomes a social outcast.

Well, get this one nugget today:  When carrying on a conversation with someone struggling with dementia, SPEAK IN THE NOW. (Ie: What are you doing NOW?  What are you thinking, NOW? What are you looking at, NOW?)  NEVER say, "What did you do today?"  NEVER!! Because they can't remember what they did, and they feel terrible about not being able to remember.  They really do. 

Lori's mother has had dementia for 2 years, and still, everyday looks at the mail searching for letters.  And the sad part is that Lori's mother loves people, and loves to interact - but can't use the computer anymore. She has lost the ability to use her email and can barely use her cellphone anymore.  So, people do not make the extra effort, (other than her children who all get together and Skype her a few times a month.) And if people only knew that Skype alone is a great way to communicate - they would be able to have lasting communication with their friend suffering from dementia long before they would ever lose their ability to speak. Sixty percent of communication is non-verbal and visual - so Skype is a great way to stay engaged.

 Lori's mother has vascular dementia and could even live well into her nineties.  But some people think that dementia is a death verdict and already treat the person suffering from dementia as if they are already dead.  They speak over them to their caregivers, and do not acknowledge their fears. Lori's mother insisted on watching the Glen Campbell special on A.D.  And when Lori asked her questions about how she felt watching the special, her reply was, "I'm scared, really scared."  Lori said, "What are you scared about, mom?"  "I'm scared that I may have that." "Lori responded, "Well, you are very forgetful sometimes, but your doctor doesn't think you have what he (G.C.) has, but another type of forgetfulness caused by your heart issues, and that type of forgetfulness has a very long life span. And, anyway - when you forget things, I'm here to help you remember. And when I forget things, you help me to remember, so we are both in this forgetfulness together for the long haul. Is that okay with you, mom?" Then, Lori's mother busted out laughing. "So mom, what do you think about changing the channel and watching a cooking show?"  Her mother said, "No, I want to see this until the end."

Lori woke up, yesterday and her mother jumped, (literally jumped) out of bed. "Mom, what is your hurry?  Did you miss the bus?"  Her mother started laughing.  "Lori, we need to get ready for church!" It was Tuesday yesterday.  "Oh, mom it is Tuesday and there is no church today." Lori's mom looked sad. "I thought it was Sunday."  "That's okay Mom - I do the same thing. Sometimes the days run into each other, and when that happens, week days can feel like a weekends, right?"  That was the end of it. There was no more talk about church.

Then at 9:15AM Weds. ( today), Lori knocked on her mother's door, and out walks Lori's mother decked out to the nines with her hair done, her make-up on, her best dress on, shoes on, carrying her purse.  "Where are you going all dressed up, mom?"  "I want to go to church," said Lori's mother.  Since Lori was driving right past a church during her errands, she said, "Mom we can go to church right after breakfast, okay?"  So 20 mins later, Lori and her mother were in the car driving to church on a Weds., morning one town away.

 Lori brought her mother to a church, not the same church that they attend on Sunday, and Lori's mother smiled and smiled when they walked in. Lori's mother whispered, "We can sit here."   So, the two women, whispering to each-other in an empty church,  sat in the second row pew of a very old church. And then in the silence, Lori's mother closed her eyes. Lori said, "What caused you to want to go to church today and yesterday. Is there a special reason?" Lori's mother, with her eyes closed, said - "God is here, God is here." And with reverence, Lori and her mother prayed. "Who shall we pray for, mother?" "Everyone,  pray for everyone, "said Lori's mom.  So, Lori and her mother prayed for people they know, strangers, and the entire world.  Then Lori and her mother sat in silence for 30 mins., Lori's mother wanted to stay, but Lori told her they would return every Wednesday.  Lori's mother thanked her, saying, "That was nice. That was really nice."
  
Positive Communication methods for people living with dementia:  We recommend seminars by Teepa Snow,M.S., OTR/L.FAOTA www.teepasnow.com, Naomi Feil, MSW, www.vfvalidation.org, and her books, all of them. And the life changing, ground breaking books, "Contented Dementia," by Dr. Oliver James, "The Mindful Caregiver," by Nancy L. Kriseman, and "Deeper Into The Soul," by Nader Robert Shabahangi, Ph.D, and Bogna Szymkiewicz, Ph.D

Copyright 2015 Caregivers Get Fit! Mama  Nicey

The information in this blog is information. It is not meant to be a replacement for getting medical advice from your own health professional regarding your own individual health challenge or condition. Dr. Denise will not diagnose, treat, or give direct personal consultations/advice to you on this blog for any medical condition, but will give general examples, and scientific research on many different health topics.  How you decide to use the information is between you and your own medical/ health professional.

Canine Dementia Caregiving Tips



   Lori was 23 years old, and had been training for a job that would give her opportunities to travel around the country with a Broadway show, and even have an opportunity to work on a movie. But her job was all resting upon one skill, and this skill was so important, that any alteration would not only cost Lori her job, but her future employers would lose and estimated 500K/night. As one of Lori's Broadway company managers once told her. "Shutting down the tour even for one night because of a dog issues could cost the company half a million dollars, so you have quite a responsibility on your hands young lady!!"

 When opening week came around for this Tony winning Broadway musical, and they were putting the show in for the first stop on a 150 city tour, the dog Lori was working with refused to follow it's commands and cues from the actors on the stage. And opening night,  was now less than two days away!!  This was shocking to Lori, because the canine had performed these cues flawlessly for months leading up to the opening! Lori was concerned and even angry.  And all she could think about was, "the dog is being disobedient. " Lori was only looking at the behavior from her own perspective, and not from the dog's perspective. What was the REASON or the CAUSE for the behavior?

Then, - the genius of Lori's mentor, (a world famous dog trainer who now has his own TV show),  gave Lori some important pieces of wisdom. "Two things to remember: 1) There is always a reason for the behavior, and 2) Learn to follow non-verbal cues, be willing to be led and look at the situation through the dog's eyes, not yours." After careful investigation, looking at the challenge through the dog's eyes, it was found that the dog was used to taking less steps to get to her mark, center stage at her training stage on Broadway.  Once the steps were in place at the new theater, along with having tech people and the creative staff off of the stage during the scene, the dog performed beautifully.  Lori learned that the changes greatly affected the dog's ability to perform, thus causing behavioral changes.

  The advice of Lori's mentor helped immensely, and these two pieces of information directly correlate to caring for a person who is living with dementia, with Lori adding one more piece of advice: Number 3 - "Don't take anything personally. It isn't about you, but solely about the person you are caring for so do what you can to get yourself out of the way. Once "I," is replaced with, "we," magic happens and you and your carer can meet someplace in-between where wisdom resides."

Being willing to be led without expectations will give you important cues regarding, "why," the person you are caring for is acting the way they are acting. Lori's mother has a history of being a secretary. Lori has found that if she doesn't straighten her mother's room up everyday putting everything in order in precisely the same place, everyday - her mother will start pacing and wringing her hands.  But when Lori stacks her mothers books in the corner, hangs up newly laundered clothes and makes sure her bed is made immediately after she wakes up with the pillows stacked a certain way, and with the curtains opened and tied, the pacing and hand wringing goes away.

Her mother is content, and talks about being home. She will say she is home and Lori will ask her where home is and she will always, every time say that she is in her childhood town at her grandparent's house where she was loved and adored as a child. With her mother sharing this information, Lori is then given direct feedback from her mother that she is happy and content.

(The above post is in memory of Roxanne, pictured above. Rescued from the ASPCA, Roxanne played "Sandy," in "Annie," did several TV commercials and "Shakespeare In The Park," in Central Park, NYC.) 
Positive Communication methods for people living with dementia:  We recommend seminars by Teepa Snow,M.S., OTR/L.FAOTA www.teepasnow.com, Naomi Feil, MSW, www.vfvalidation.org, and her books, all of them. And the life changing, ground breaking books, "Contented Dementia," by Dr. Oliver James, "The Mindful Caregiver," by Nancy L. Kriseman, and "Deeper Into The Soul," by Nader Robert Shabahangi, Ph.D, and Bogna Szymkiewicz, Ph.D

Copyright 2015 Caregivers Get Fit! Mama  Nicey

The information in this blog is information. It is not meant to be a replacement for getting medical advice from your own health professional regarding your own individual health challenge or condition. Dr. Denise will not diagnose, treat, or give direct personal consultations/advice to you on this blog for any medical condition, but will give general examples, and scientific research on many different health topics.  How you decide to use the information is between you and your own medical/ health professional.


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